Seven Roadblocks That Keep You From Accomplishing Goals

Seven Roadblocks That Keep You From Accomplishing Goals

Seven Roadblocks That Keep You

From Accomplishing Goals

So you want to set some goals! That’s fantastic! But you’re feeling apprehensive or a lot is going through your mind about why you should or shouldn’t do this or that.

Start by asking yourself some tough questions. “What could keep you from accomplishing your goal?” If you’ve already tried a goal and didn’t succeed, you may ask, “What held me back from my goal?”  It is imperative that you become aware of what’s keeping you from accomplishing your goals so you can crush those obstacles!

Here are seven roadblocks that may be standing in your way:

  • Fear of failure

What is making you fearful? Is it going outside your comfort zone into the great unknown? Are you afraid you’ll fail? No matter what the cause, know that you’re not alone. Everyone has fears. It is hard to make the initial step over that wall of fear especially if you think you’re going to fail.

I don’t like the word failure because there is shame attached to it. Each time I’ve failed at something, I’ve also learned some very valuable insight! So failure, really isn’t failure, it is a learning experience. They only way it is true failure is if you didn’t learn something from it. If you’re passionate about your goal, don’t give up on it or yourself!

  • Not having a plan or being unclear on the goal

Okay, you have a goal in mind, super! Now it’s time to get clear on the goal and make a plan for it. If you don’t you will end up regretting it because you’ll lose the emotional strength to carry through to the end result.  Why? Because the steps you’re taking and your end result aren’t clear.  It’s like walking down a path, not knowing where it leads. No matter how much strength you have at the beginning, you will eventually become exhausted with no end in sight!

You can use the SMART goal acronym for a start:

  • S = specific • M = measurable • A = achievable • R = realistic • T = timely

You should use a method like the one above to create your plan for the goal you’re wanting to achieve. This will help you to clarify the goal you have.

  • Listening to negative talk from others or yourself

Negative talk from others or even from yourself has been proven to increase stress levels and lead to depression. The five people you interact with the most, have the greatest influence on you. If there are negative influences around you, do what you can to change the company you keep. Who wants to be told they aren’t good enough to accomplish something?

If you’re speaking to yourself negatively, it will only lead to discouragement, lack of commitment, lack of confidence, procrastination and making excuses why not to move forward with a goal. Would you speak to your closest loved ones the way you speak to yourself?  Be kind to yourself! Be your own best friend and not your worst enemy!

  • Lack of commitment

I don’t know…should I do it, should I not do it? Are you being wishy washy? If you are passionate about a goal and I mean REALLY passionate, why the heck are you being wishy washy? The only way favorable results happen is by being committed! I know it can be difficult to be committed to something, but if you are, don’t waver from it!  You can use your commitment to your favor! Commitment builds momentum, keeps you optimistic and eventually leads you to the bliss of success!

  • Working on too many goals at once

I think I heard someone say, Prioritize!  Yep, that’s the word! We all have many goals, even sometimes unknowingly. What you must do is prioritize your goals. If you don’t you’ll be lead to a ton of frustration and procrastination. You can’t accomplish a huge goal until some smaller goals are met. For instance, if your ultimate goal is to own your own business, you have to set smaller goals in place, prioritize them and then accomplish those goals first. It’s really no different than taking baby steps. We all have to start somewhere!

  • Living in your comfort zone

People LOVE what’s comfortable.  It’s all nice, soft and cozy in your comfort zone.  I love my comfort zone also! When a person steps out of their Comfy Zone, it can be scary not knowing what to expect, how things will work and so on. I’m here to tell you the truth…if you step out of that zone, over time you create a new Comfort Zone with the things, people, memories and accomplishments that you truly do want in the zone with you! This is why it is so imperative that you discover what holds you back from taking a step out of you current comfort zone to the New and Improved Comfy Zone that you want!

  • Procrastination and Making excuses

I’ll do it tomorrow!  We’ve all heard that or even said it! We cannot let procrastination take us away from the success we get when we complete a goal. Once we complete a goal, it builds motivation, inspiration and passion for the next goal! Procrastination steals your motivation, excitement and leaves you high and dry every time!

This brings me to Procrastination’s cousin, Making Excuses!  She likes to tear down all hope and discourages you from even trying. The excuses people come up with vary of course, but when you ALLOW yourself to make excuses, it opens the door for negative self-talk and kicking yourself in the butt! You then feel guilty for not taking action! The best alternative…STOP MAKING EXCUSES!

Leave comments below and let me know how you’ve overcome these types of obstacles.

 

 

4 Ways to Communicate

4 Ways to Communicate

4 Ways to Communicate

Personal communication is key in every relationship. Whether you want to speak to your teenager, your mother-in-law, your friend, spouse or co-workers. Everything begins and ends with how you choose to communicate with those around you.

Communication is much more complex than people realize. There are many ways of communicating some of which are appropriate and some of which are not, due to specific circumstances. Below we will explore some of the methods of personal communication and my thoughts on each.

  • Verbal (spoken) Communication (face to face, telephone, sign language):

Most of us use verbal communication as a strong tool to communicate our thoughts, feelings or anything that comes to our minds. It is of upmost importance to use when dealing with a difficult issue that requires one to express what is truly bothering them. Verbal communication and Non-Verbal communication usually go hand in hand, but not always.

Some say that sign language is non-verbal because of the use of hands when communicating.  There is some debate on this, but I like to think of it as Verbal communication because people who need to use sign language, use their hands as their voice.

  • Non-Verbal Communication (body language, gestures, how we dress):

Our body language and gestures say a lot about what we are feeling. If you’re upset for instance, you may wave your hands around while your body looks tight and stressed. If you’re happy, your facial expressions and you’re overall disposition says, “I’m happy.” We tend to use the Verbal language in line with our Non-Verbal ques.

I know some of you may be upset by the next one, but how we dress gives out ques as well.  If you are going to a job interview, you’ll want to look your best for the type of job you are being interviewed for. When you dress for success, your body language, gestures and verbal communication go in line with how you’re dressed because you’ll have more confidence. If you go to the same interview with something you’d wear to the beach, chances are you’ll feel awkward and less confident for that interview. People should keep in mind to dress for the occasion.

  • Written Communication (letters/cards, emails, text messages, social media):

It is nice to receive a card or letter. We usually get these around important events that take place in our lives. Emails, test messages and social media outlets like Facebook or Twitter have their place in communicating also. We need to remember when we use written communication, the verbal and non-verbal ques are not present. This may lead to miscommunication.  If there is something truly important that needs addressing with someone you care about, it is always best to go with Verbal communication. The person you are communicating with will be able to pick up on your non-verbal and verbal ques much better than through a text.

For example, if you’ve been going back and forth on a topic through texting, it may be difficult to know if a person is excited, mad, frustrated or joking if they use an explanation point. What if they don’t use any punctuation marks? Who knows how they are truly feeling. I can’t tell you how many times I’ve seen this happen. Rule of thumb, if the conversation is super important, communicate verbally with them.

  • Your energy:

Your energy says a lot about you. If you are feeling upset, agitated, peaceful, tired or excited, people pick up on it! As soon as you walk into a room, your energy says hello before you ever open your mouth. Remember, at all times you are carrying around your “energy.” Are you positive? Are you negative? Are you a joker?  You can sometimes change your energy by doing something that makes you feel a certain way. For example, if I’m having a hard day, I’ll look up inspirational quotes or stories. It seems to help me become more optimistic and happy.  Find what helps you to carry the energy you desire and you want others feel when you walk into a room.

I’ll be going into more detail about each of these in upcoming blogs, so keep your eyes open! Have a fantastic day!

 

 

 

Don’t Let Your Past Ruin Your Present

Don’t Let Your Past Ruin Your Present

Don’t Let Your Past Ruin Your Present

            Imagine for a moment, you are driving a race car, going superfast around a track. As you zoom around and around, your eyes are fixed to the road ahead.  You feel a little nudge from behind you, yet your eyes stay fixed on the road. The nudge gets stronger and stronger. It’s starting to make you feel uncomfortable, but you know if you look back you’re going to crash.

I’d like to compare this to those nagging feelings you get when your negative past tries to manifest itself in your present.  If you’ve already dealt emotionally with whatever issues you had from your past and you’ve made the commitment to move past them, then don’t look back. All that will happen is your race car will crash and burn.

Keep your eyes on the road ahead. Even if you look back for a moment it will disrupt your life and those around you. By keeping your focus on your present and your future, you can improve your circumstances. You’ve already dealt with your feelings from the past. Deal with what comes to you now. You are in control of the wheel! But whatever you do, don’t let the negative feeling from your past become a part of your present or future.

Watch my video on this same blog article!  The Past.